These are some conclusions that i have come to recently
1. People change over the course of time,whether you like it or not. But do keep in mind that "you " yourself belong to this set of "people". However, expectations from them or vice versa remains the same, until one day you realise it that these too need to be refreshed over the period of time
2. You cannot claim to know somebody completely even after years of being with them. Human nature is a function of the circumstances that a person faces in his everyday life . You keep discovering new traits.
3. Some wounds never heal. May be you dont want them to. They are too precious to be locked away and forgeotten
4. You simply cannot get angry at some people. The heart has a special place for them . It was more than 3 years since i last spoke to a friend of mine and all my attempts to keep in touch with her went in vain since she was always busy, leaving me frustrated. When she called some days back( obviously with a reason) , I just couldn stop jumping with joy . There just aint an explanation for that
5. Ego plays a big role in any relationship,in friendship too, however good friends they claim to be ( Confused about this point , ego should not come in between two good friends , but it often does , though they are good friends)
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I don't have anything useful to do so i will analyze all of your points in detail [:D]
1)Expectation is good and so is change. change helps you in overcoming setbacks caused by unfulfilled expectations. sounding too serious, I am leaving this point [:D]
2)True. There is no point in knowing everything about some person. kam akal laga k kaam chal raha hai to zyada kyo kharch kare [:D]
3)Even by my maudlin standards [:P] this point is too serious to comment.
4)Its only one month since I spoke with my best friend. You are more experienced so i will take your word for this.
5)I am not an egoist, egotist or egomaniac so I cant comment on this point with as much detail as I did for points 1-4 [:P]
BTW, you haven't disabled the captcha from comment posting. Its irritating to fill the box with random letters after writing a useful and witty comment [:D].
1. I agree
2. I agree
3. I completely agree
4. Just Agree
5. Sorry but I don't agree, ego plays a big role in defining that person himself/herself so ego should come between the friends.. then only they realize mistake they made or going to make..
(Clue : Pub on the terrace of B'lore central)
@Arun
Thank you for dedicating some of your free time into reading my post :P
I value your precious comments :P
@Aniket
yes Aniket, ideally it should not.. But then reality is far far distant than ideal. It does come between every relationship
ok i like this inference thing..so ill go point by point also, :)
1)ya ppol change, but over a time they become what they really are..its like at one point u know urself well enough to know that ur this, and then the person should not change. ya, put bluntly i don't like ppol who change..
2)about this point..i really agree..it takes time to know people, but most of the times if u r together in some crisis or mess with that person u truly know him. people can feign something in regular times , but when they are afraid, sacred and in stress, that is when u see the real person.so ya if 2 persons get into a bad mess together they wud knw each other better than going 2 months to movies together :)
3)yes u need to get angry..some ppol take everything for granted :)
4)this is the point i disagree completely. being a egoist and egotist are 2 diff things and i thing the former is being discussed here. let me give u my definition, real friends only share one thing between them , that is not ego, its is the belief that when things go wrong, they wil be there, even if the day before they fought , or even if they haven't spoken for a month.i know thats idealistic and i hv learnt that in most cases the same is not true..but thts not friendship.. :)
afternote- meg ur writing is going better and better... :) :)
1. People change over the course of time,whether you like it or not. [V] No they really dont, you are too young to realize that the more ppl change, the more they remain the same.
2. You cannot claim to know somebody completely even after years of being with them.[V] Maybe you just arent *observant* enough to understand the person better, or deep down inside, you really dont care
3. Some wounds never heal. -[V] Dont care - sorry
4. You simply cannot get angry at some people. [V] Not sure, it seems like you like to take crap from ppl
5. Ego plays a big role in any relationship [V] And thats wat makes it fun, doesnt it ;)
Sorry for sounding such a bad ass...........I was just being frank, truth be said, all your conclusions are a "function of the circumstances" in your life. They too shall change. Such conclusions arent worth hanging on to, just hang on to a set of principles........... along with a few ppl whom you love and admire...... you'll do just fine
Ciao
@ Vaibhav
You did come across as a bad ass as I read the first part..But not so much as the second :P
Thanks man
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